Posted by: George E Burney | May 16, 2012

Public Speaking – To Overcome Fear, Like Your Audience!

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Do you fear people whom you like? Do you like people whom you fear? Those feelings are incompatible, aren’t they? If you like a person, you aren’t likely to be fearful of them. If you fear someone, it’s difficult to like them at the same time.

Why Not Like Them?

Think of what that implies. To overcome fear of your audience, you should decide in advance to like them. Usually, you won’t be personally acquainted with most individuals in your audience. That means that you are completely free to view them as you please. In a sense, you could view them as friends to whom you have not yet been introduced.

It’s to your advantage to see them as your friends, and as people who are just like you.  And if they are just like you, you’ll have no difficulty liking them, right? Why is that so?

They’re Easy To Like Because They’re Just Like You!

We all like people who are just like us in some respects. That’s just a fact, and there’s no getting around it. As proof, isn’t it true that the people we struggle to like are those who are so different from us that we can’t relate to them?

So, choose to view your audience as being composed of individuals whom you like. Decide that they like you, too, and that they need to hear what you have to say. That brings up an interesting point.

Why They’ll Like You

People in an audience are reactors. They will respond and react to you, to your feelings, and to what you say. They will also sense whether you like them or not. Just as dirt swept under a rug cannot be hidden forever, we can’t hide our feelings toward an audience for long. That’s good, because if you like the audience, that feeling will somehow show in your presentation.

Liking the audience will do something else, too. It will lessen any fear you may have of the audience, which will help you to relax and speak in a conversational manner, which all will enjoy.

Copyright © 2012 by George Burney and betterpublicspeaking


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